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pro SEX STORIES Questions

In as much detail as you feel comfy, please share—


  • What led you to your sex-related job?

  • Do you make your full living from this sex-related work?

  • What title or labels do you use?

  • Regardless of what other people might label you, do you identify as a sex worker?

  • What is your definition of a sex worker?


  • Tell us about your work! How are you making the world a sexier, more loving place?

  • What do you like best about your job?

  • How is it sexy?

  • How is it un-sexy?

  • What’s the silliest shame-related experience you’ve encountered through your work?

  • How does your sex-related work influence or inform your own sex life?

  • What do your boundaries between “professional” and “personal” look like?

  • What’s the sexy communication in your workplace like?

  • How do you navigate boundaries with colleagues, clients or subcontractors?

culture & the future

  • What have you learned about social and cultural norms through your work that has surprised you?

  • Are there any norms you’d like to shift?

  • Since you began this work, have you noticed any sex-related shifts in your area of industry? What about in your own business practices or personal life?

  • What do you want to celebrate most about your work, right now?

  • If you could wave a magic wand and teach everyone something about sex, what would it be?

  • FANTASY BRAINSTORM: Say there is a creative space that is part sex ed museum, part erotic art gallery, and the secret dungeon down below doubles as a coworking space for sex workers during the week, and the whole place has regular workshops on weeknights and afternoon delight play parties on the weekends. You have been tasked with designing one of the rooms. It can represent you, promote your brand, be an experience you want people to have that reflects your values, and you have an unlimited budget. What is it like?

personal SEX STORIES Questions

In as much detail as you feel comfy, please share—


  • If you had to rate yourself on a sexual shame-o-meter from 1 (shameless!) to 10 (so full of shame), where do you fall right now?

  • What's your sex life like right now? What’s your favorite part?

  • What is “sexy” to you?

  • When do you feel sexiest?

  • What is “sex” for you? 

  • Did you ever get a helpful sexual education, an explicit health and safety talk or lesson in consent growing up?

  • As an adult, can you give us an example of one time you said a very clear YES to something sexy that led to an awesome experience?

  • What happens to your shame-o-meter when it's time to talk to your partner about safer sex? 

  • What’s your ideal way for a safer sex convo to unfold?


  • What is your first sex-related memory?

  • What were your early understandings of what sex was, or what it meant? When do you feel like you really understood what it was?

  • How did the culture, religion, family values or friendships you grew up with influence your relationship to sex?

  • What is the first sexual experience you remember having?

  • When and how did you start touching yourself?

  • When did you start touching other people?

  • What formative experiences stand out in terms of kissing, touching, oral, penetration, or any other forms of erotic energy that were meaningful to your sexual self?

  • What are your kinks? How did you discover them? What are your safety and negotiation practices like?


  • How and how often do you touch yourself now? 

  • How have your self-pleasure patterns changed over the years, if at all?

  • What are some of your favorite ways to use your hands on a partner?

  • What are your favorite ways to experience your partner’s hands?

  • What sex toys do you use?

ORAL, penetration & orgasm

  • What body parts do enjoy performing oral on? What are your moves?

  • What body parts do you enjoy receiving oral on? What are favorite moves from your partner?

  • What kinds of penetration do you enjoy giving and/or receiving?

  • What are ways you love and/or things you like or need to cum?


  • What are your biggest turn-ons? 

  • Biggest Turn-offs?

  • What else does your body love?

  • When do you feel most in touch with your body?

  • What makes you feel desired and/or appreciated, sexually?



  • What are your experiences with or fantasies about:

  • sexting?

  • sending or receiving nudes?

  • watching porn?

  • homemade porn?

  • group sex?

  • sex parties?

  • sex clubs?

  • ex dreams?


  • What other fantasies or desires have you explored, or do you want to explore?

  • Future hopes/goals/dreams for your sex life?

  • Any other sexual disasters, triumphs, weird, unexpected, awkward, amazing things you can think of?

  • Any other thoughts on sex in general or your own sex life?

  • If you could go back and give a younger you sex advice, what age(s) would you pick and what would you say?


(answers in the Private Gallery or on Patreon)

  • Do you have a sex question for me?

creation STORIES Questions

In as much detail as you feel comfy, please share—

  • What does the word "creative" mean to you?

  • How do you understand your creative self?

  • What are your favorite parts about your creativity?

  • Tell us about your aspirational creative practice, and your actual creative practice.

  • What are you working on right now?

  • If you ever feel stuck, what do you do?

  • What's something another creator has made recently that you've found compelling or inspirational?

  • What hopes do you have for your creativity going forward?

  • If you were talking to someone who wanted to make...something...but they had no idea what, what would you tell them?

  • Since 2018 I have been interviewing people one on one about their sex lives, and have been developing a thesis based on this anecdotal research that helping people lead better-laid lives will stimulate all parts of our creativity, support innovation, and make the world a more loving place. Would you care to poke holes in or support this argument? (both are fun for me, I call this "noodling" and also think polite shows of thoughtful disagreement are helpful).

  • FANTASY BRAINSTORM: Say there's a creation space that is an alternative nightlife category—think elegant social club meets gigantic arts-and-crafts studio where the focus is connection and co-creation, and artists work there and sometimes fancy artists come in and do workshops, and each art and craft has its own room or zone—what would it definitely need to include, and/or if you were in charge of designing a room, what woult it be like?

Sex Stories

Sharing stories to lead better-laid lives.

Sex Stories is a podcast of sexy desires, delights, disappointments, discoveries, and dreams, shared in story form.

In Season 4, the focus is professional—what do the people whose job it is to think about sex all day...think about sex? We hear from experts whose literal jobs are making the world a sexier, more loving place.

Guests  offer a window into their respective careers in the sex industry, sharing the wisdom and insights they've accumulated along the way to help us understand the economies built upon lust.

Seasons 1-3 are mostly anonymous guests sharing their most personal details, giving Listeners get a chance to safely fantasize about future bucket list-worthy sexsplorations. Turns out trust and safety are super hot, and talking about it ahead of time is a turn-on.

These respectful, casually explicit hyper-personal interviews offer a hot mix of inspiration, practical sexy how-to’s, and insight into other peoples’ feelings about sex.

Prioritize pleasure. Fuck shame and judgement. Connect with your kinks, learn how weird you aren’t, and find out just now normal loving anal is.

Let’s lead better-laid lives.

Let’s create a world where taking care of each other is the norm.

Let’s smash some shame, make & share sex stories.




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